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Question:
My husband has been keeping in touch with his former girlfriend. When confronted about this previously, he lied about it, until I showed him the calls on the cell phone bill. He says there is nothing between them, they remained friends after their breakup and that I have nothing to worry about since he married me. He does not understand why I am upset about this. He says I am just being insecure. I say he has no regard for my feelings. Am I being unreasonable in asking him to stop calling her?

Dr. Tom:
Each of us has insecurities to deal with, which I'm sure you will admit, but this is beyond that. You need to be able to trust your husband. If his contact with the girlfriend causes you concerns, he should break off contact out of love for you. Talk to him again and ask him to see you point of view.

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